On this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Classes, I chat with integrative coach Elfreda Manahan-Vaughan. We discover the complexities of attachment patterns past the normal narratives, together with avoidant, balanced (safe), coercive (anxious), and unresolved trauma. Elfreda explains how these patterns are adaptive and may differ based mostly on context. She additionally discusses how people can earn safe attachments by way of self-awareness and evolving relational behaviours. We additionally contact on how these patterns manifest in numerous features of life, together with cash administration, friendships, and office interactions.
IN THIS EPISODE…
01:24 Exploring Attachment with Alfreda Mannerheim Vaughan
05:33 Elfreda’s journey into attachment concept
08:48 Natalie’s complicated expertise of attachment concept
11:40 Understanding in style attachment narratives
21:43 Adapting and evolving attachment patterns
13:52 Patricia Crittenden’s Second Era Attachment Concept
27:21 Deeper understanding of avoidant behaviour
28:44 Patterns of avoidant and anxious behaviour
32:16 Private reflections on relationship dynamics
34:28 Exploring people-pleasing types from Natalie’s guide The Pleasure of Saying No
37:14 Attachment patterns in numerous contexts
40:42 Steps in the direction of earned safety and the balanced sample
45:46 Last ideas and key takeaways
LINKS MENTIONED AND RECOMMENDED RESOURCES
- Elfreda’s web site
Elfreda Manahan-Vaughn on Instagram and LinkedIn - Elfreda’s article “It’s not what you assume it’s” on Ruth Cooper-Dickson’s Substack
- Mary Ainsworth’s experiment, the Unusual Scenario
- Patricia Crittenden’s infographic of the Dynamic Maturation Mannequin of Attachment and Adaption (DMM) which breaks down the patterns throughout the patterns (scroll all the way down to the ‘maturity’ part on the backside)
- Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Lady
- Connected by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller
- The Pleasure of Saying No
- Obtain my free Unsent Letter and Emotions Diary Guides for assist with writing about your feelings to take steps towards earned safety and the balanced sample.
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